As a therapist, I know that no one ever makes an appointment with me when their lives are going perfectly well (grin). Clients come to their first appointment with trepidation, having reached the point where they will take the scary step to reach out for some help.
The Gift of Desperation
The “gift of desperation” brings us to a place where we will take action, no longer willing to stay, one more second, in that place of stuckness, despair, fear, or whatever we’re experiencing.
“Imagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house. At first, perhaps, you can understand what He is doing. He is getting the drains right and stopping the leaks in the roof and so on; you knew that those jobs needed doing and so you are not surprised. But presently He starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make any sense. What on earth is He up to? The explanation is that He is building quite a different house from the one you thought of – throwing out a new wing here, putting on an extra floor there, running up towers, making courtyards. You thought you were being made into a decent little cottage: but He is building a palace.”
While as an individual I haven’t necessarily enjoyed the process of rebuilding or the times I felt like my life was completely falling apart, great growth and opportunity came from those times of desperation.
This is true in parenting, marriage and other relationship and life challenges. Sometimes, when the way we’re doing things isn’t working, we have to step back, regroup, get some outside perspective, and possibly do a minor (or major) remodel, in order to solve problems and build the life we desire.
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